People Don't Mean What They Say

This is not meant in a manipulative sense - it means people want to impart their deep understanding of some things but are forced into the construct of short conversation and language.

Though you want to try to deliver your knowledge/feelings/understanding to another person, rarely can you conjure a perfect few sentences to encapsulate all that you mean. And if those words did exist, it can hardly come up during everyday conversation - you simply don't have enough time to put thought into your words, you just have to spit out whatever is closest in your mind. 

Take this into mind during your conversations. Realize your conversation partner's frustration with complicated subjects. Try and extrapolate their thinking, and don't be passive. It's very discouraging to have to do all the work in a conversation without helpful probing questions. 

This becomes especially important if something is said that pushes barriers or buttons - try and understand how that statement makes sense instead of recoiling defensively. (Though take this statement only with your closer relationships, as people saying offensive things early in relationships have their own complications)

Dodge Conversation for Action

Japanese samurai culture considered smiling and talking as a sign of weakness in combat. This is because smiling and talking only lead to excuses - decisions change circumstances, talking rarely does so. 

The premise is that during times of trial, one should let actions speak for you.

Oftentimes in todays world it is easy to get wrapped into conversation, when action is almost always more valuable. The best conversations even lead to actions. 

Samurai knew this and acted first, and corrected errors later with words and more actions. They recognized that acting, without devoting even tertiary conversation, was often the correct choice - and that that choice would be reached with, or without conversation.

Those that spoke begged for their lives, those that didn't speak were the deciders.